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Carl Thomas

Pastor | Live Free Founder | Lover of Jesus, Philly sports, fitness, tattoos, sarcasm, and craft beers.

I don’t know about you, but I tend to be impatient sometimes… especially if I’m really excited about something.

My wife will be the first one to tell you that if I see something I like or get something in my mind, I will obsess over it and come up with 50 different reasons why we need to get it or do it as soon as possible.

I’m not saying this is a healthy thing.
This is a confession if nothing else.

But “impatience” is NOT a virtue and I think it’s something that we all struggle with, especially when it comes to stuff that we’re either excited or frustrated about.

I’m seeing this more than ever in my life right now with this ministry.

I remember a few years ago I had dinner with a really good friend who happens to be one of the hosts in our community named Jeff Borkoski. We talked about life, goals, ministry, all sorts of things.

And we both had to remind each other that even though tomorrow there is stuff we want to do, tomorrow is not always when everything needs to be done. And we don’t need everything today that we will need for tomorrow.

In fact, God only promises to give us “enough” each day, and that’s all we really require.

Do I have ENOUGH for today?
Am I making a big ENOUGH impact today?

It’s hard to keep this sort of thing in mind on an ongoing basis, but I know it’s the best thing for me.


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Because when we get too far ahead of ourselves, usually good things don’t happen.

Live Free has done some pretty cool things over the past few years. We’ve welcomed thousands of new members into our community.

But if I was being honest, I rather that “thousands” be “tens of thousands.”


Well, I’d like to say it’s because we’d be impacting that many more people. But, if I’m being completely honest with myself, part of it is also probably for my own feelings of success, which again is not a good thing.

Each day I have to remind myself, “Hey Carl, you’re not doing this for you. You’re doing this for them.”

And I think that’s why the slow growth is so important… Because it helps keep us grounded and humble.

The reason I’m sharing this with you is that a lot of people (like you and like me) who either are dealing or have dealt with porn use and that sort of thing can grow impatient. We’ve been struggling with this stuff for most of our lives, and we just can’t wait to be done with it.

Unfortunately, that’s not usually the way it works.

And again, it’s probably for the best because if we were just done with it overnight, we would not be able to learn the lessons, habits, and disciplines we need.

Overnight Success often brings overnight failure.

But slow growth usually leads to something that will sustain the test of time.

Yeah, sometimes I look at our signups and I say, “Man, I wish we had triple or quadruple that amount, but then I read the comments and I see how much these men have changed their lives for the better.

I see the lives that are being impacted and that reminds me, “Hey, Carl, the number of people who sign up tomorrow doesn’t matter. It’s the number of lives you’re impacting right now.”

I want to challenge you, if you haven’t joined or checked out the Live Free community, to think about it.

Because while I am not promising you overnight success in your quest for freedom from porn, I will promise you a very safe and effective place where you can start that journey.

And that’s really what Live Free is all about… providing a safe place where guys can start and build success that will maintain itself and stand the test of time.

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