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5 Reasons To Keep It Buttoned Up

Let’s be honest, most people are having sex in some version (intercourse, porn, etc)…

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Thankful for Problems

I don’t know about you, but one thing that I often struggle with is this idea of giving thanks in all situations.

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Community, Connection, and Compulsion

Let’s just say the last 18 months have been pretty crazy, especially in the US. Between COVID…

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A Cause for Gratitude

This month we are talking a lot about gratitude in the Live Free Community. Given the time of year…

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Are You Up for the Fight?

This past weekend was a sobering one for me and my family as we are all Philadelphia sports…

Put Away the Masks

This past week has been pretty eventful (at least in the USA). We moved the clocks back.

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What is Porn?

My wife is a HUGE fan of the show Friends. She owns the DVDs, watches the reruns on TV…

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The Power of Awareness

Anxiety sucks. If you’ve never dealt with anxiety, maybe this is news to you, but if you have…

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The Importance of Recognizing Triggers

If you have ever read a book, done a course, or attended a support group focused on porn…

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Are You Resentful of Your Recovery?

This past Sunday I was fortunate enough to go to a Philadelphia Eagles football game with my son…

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5 Lessons from Shameless

As you may or may not know, this past Saturday we hosted our first ever Shameless Online…

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The Secret to Disarming Awkwardness

When I see conversations in the Live Free Community about masturbation, it’s encouraging…

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Funny But True

I don’t know about you, but I find a lot of humor in jokes that poke fun at real life. And if I’m being honest…

3 Keys to Beating Shame

When we created Live Free the main goal was to provide a safe and encouraging place for…

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The Shame Hurdle

Over the past decade I can’t count how many emails I’ve received from individuals struggling…

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3 Considerations for Confession

Over the past decade I can’t count how many emails I’ve received from individuals struggling…

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What Freedom Isn’t

Here’s the problem. If Freedom is more of an experiential thing, something that you…

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Real Freedom from Porn

So many who struggle to break the stronghold of pornography dream of one day achieving sobriety…

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How Do You Define Freedom?

What is freedom? At first, you might think that’s kind of an easy answer, but the reality is that if…

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You Can’t Give Up On Freedom

If you want freedom you can’t give up. Here’s something you may not know about me…

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You Must Work for Your Freedom

Freedom. It sounds great but how many people actually find it? Take for instance addiction…

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You Must Want Freedom to Have It

If a Christian is “free” in Christ then why do so many men and women continue to struggle…

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3 Keys to Freedom

Freedom is a term that carries with it a real message of hope. In the church world we talk about…

Talking Porn, Sharks & Potty Mouths

I hate to be a downer, but there is no way to get around this one. There is no guaranteed way…

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When Being a Dad Isn’t So Fun

I’ll tell you this. Generally, I love being a Dad. Whether it be shooting hoops with my son…

5 Tips for Dads

I have two kids (and more grey hair than I care to admit). My son is twelve and …

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3 Birthday Realizations

So this past Sunday was my 51st birthday. I know, getting old but not much I can do about that…

Recovery Means Regular Practice

The last few weeks, I’ve been sharing some important principles about recovery that I’ve…

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Recovery Means Relearning

I don’t know about you, but I hate having to relearn something when I’ve already got a system down…

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Recovery Means Mastering the Basics

Last week I started sharing with you some of the lessons I’ve been teaching my son in…

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Recovery Means Embracing Failure

Over the past month, I’ve been working with my son every day to help him with his…

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Long Term Recovery Requires This

Those who know me also know that I’m a bit of a health and fitness nut. I work out most days and…

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The Real April Fool

Around 15 years ago, when I was still struggling with daily porn use, I felt tremendously ill…

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AM I ENOUGH?

In April, we are releasing a new YouVersion 7-day reading plan. I am very excited about…

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How to Differentiate Shame

Sometimes when I mess up I have a hard time getting past it. Like many people, I can beat…

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3 Recovery Principles from the Gym

Last week it finally happened. I took my 13-year-old son to the gym for his first workout…

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Does God Even Care?

Years ago when I was dealing with my own porn addiction and shame, I know there were times…

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Will Community Really Help Me Quit?

Let me ask you this. When you hear the word “community” what do you think? Do you envision…

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the real enemy

Fear, anxiety, uncertainty, all these things impact all of us. They’ve impacted me. I’m sure they’ve impacted …

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Sacred Cows Need to be Shot

I can’t believe it’s already been a week since When Shame Gets Real was unleashed on …

When Shame Gets Real Is Available Today!

I’m not going to lie…I’m pretty excited today because after months of writing, editing, and…

How to Supercharge Your Romance

This week is Valentine’s day, a holiday that at the mere mention of its name makes many men shudder…

Transparency Is Safety

Maybe you are reading this and wondering how transparency equates to “safety.”

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Short-Term Pain vs Long-Term Gain

There’s a short little saying that’s been around as long as I’ve been alive. A saying that’s…

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The Privacy Myth

Have you ever had this happen to you? You call your bank because you need some information.

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Slaughtering Sacred Cows

Now that we are less than 1 week into a brand-new year, there’s a good chance you…

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The Final Push – Will You Help?

We are in the final days of our 2021 year-end fundraising campaign, and I am going to be…

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Handling Holiday Stress

So next week it’s Christmas and without a doubt, many of you are feeling the holiday crunch.

Investing in Lives

If you’ve been following along with me at all the past month, you probably know…

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Accountability Equals Relationships

By now, we have all heard the word “accountability,” but what exactly is it? I don’t want to…

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The Opposite of Addiction

There’s a phrase that has been thrown around a lot for the past few years on social media…

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Offering Hope During a Pandemic

Last March, in the midst of a pandemic where many people were isolated, Live Free…

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Lowering the Bar to Entry

How do we help people who need freedom and healing when it comes to their sexual behaviors…

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Is Your Support Group Helping?

This should come as no surprise, but here at Live Free we believe STRONGLY in…

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I Don’t Have an Accountability Partner?

Lately, we’ve been talking a lot about accountability. What it looks like, how it helps, and why…

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Understanding Accountability

The idea of accountability is one of the most misunderstood concepts I’ve run into working…

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Just Grow Up

One common message you’ll usually hear if you are a guy who struggles with porn, or…

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Accountability Means…

One common message you’ll usually hear if you are a guy who struggles with porn, or…

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Non-indigenous Threats

I live in Southern New Jersey, and over the past 18 months we’ve seen a large influx of…

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Grinding It Out

Do you ever have those days when you feel like your recovery is just a real grind? If not, then…