What Can I Do if I Don’t Have an Accountability Partner?


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Lately, we’ve been talking a lot about accountability.

What it looks like, how it helps, and why we all need it. But let’s just address the elephant in the room.

What if you don’t have an accountability partner?

And even worse, what if you have no idea how to get one?

Over the past two years, several times inside the Live Free Community I’ve seen a guy post that he is looking for an accountability partner. When I see these requests I love them because, in my mind, it points to one of the purposes of Live Free, which is to make the possibility of forming these relationships a reality.

I’ll be honest, I don’t know how many times guys are able to connect and form meaningful accountability partnerships, but my hope is that it’s more often than not. Yet, it would be unrealistic to assume that everybody finds that person they are looking for.

So today I want to encourage those of you who may be looking for an accountability partner and have yet to secure one.

You can still have accountability, even if you don’t have that person in your life right now.


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I’ve said it before… Accountability is a choice more than anything.

– It’s not a software program.
– It’s not an app.
– It’s not a person.

Granted, these things help make accountability more effective, especially having a partner. But the reality is that accountability depends on one thing.

It depends on you.

Because ultimately, someone can only hold you accountable. But you have to keep yourself accountable, and make the choice each day to remain accountable.

Accountability isn’t passive.

Contrary to the marketing messages from some accountability software providers, there is no “set it and forget it” when it comes to accountability. Because accountability…

– Is active.
– Requires intentionality.
– And is a discipline that must be pursued.

And when it is left unattended, it will eventually fade away into the sunset like the hero in a bad western movie.

This is why we say on our website that Live Free offers guys accountability. Because it does. It gives them the opportunity each and every day to be accountable for their choices, good or bad.

Not because we have a special software or tool, but because we offer a safe place to be open and transparent. A place where you can share your wins, losses, and struggles while inviting challenges and feedback, receiving encouragement along the way.

These are all ingredients of effective accountability.

And here’s the thing.

I personally have had a couple of accountability partners and our conversations contain all of these elements.

– We are honest with each other.
– We talk about the tough stuff.
– We invite feedback and we encourage each other.
– We challenge each other along the way.

We can do this because we feel safe with each other and because we’ve both made the choice to be accountable.

Listen, if you have a solid accountability partner, that’s great. That’s the “ideal” or gold standard, if you will.

But if you don’t, that doesn’t mean you can’t be accountable. You just need a community or safe place where you can own your decisions, share your goals, and walk out your commitment to be accountable.

And if you don’t have an accountability partner, or you lack that safe community where you can be open about your life choices, consider joining Live Free and find the accountability you want.

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