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My wife is a HUGE fan of the show Friends.

She owns the DVDs, watches the reruns on TV, and sometimes will binge a few episodes on Netflix.

Admittedly, over the years I’ve even developed an appreciation for the show myself. I think it’s the rampant sarcasm that gets me.

Anyway, one of my favourite episodes is one where Monica catches Chandler (her husband) watching what she calls “shark porn.” In case you’ve never seen that episode, here’s a quick breakdown:

Chandler is away from home travelling, so to “unwind” he rents some hotel porn. Meanwhile, Monica decides to surprise him at the hotel, getting to Chandler’s room and opening the door at the very moment when Chandler is wrist-deep into his pants.

Chandler hears the door start to open and quickly changes the channel to some nature show about sharks, but he, unfortunately, can’t extricate himself from his pants quickly enough.

Monica surveys the scene and determines her husband is masturbating to “shark porn.” The rest of this very funny episode centers on Monica’s intervention with Chandler about his “shark porn” problem.

Why am I talking about this?

Well, it’s not to get you watching Friends or even because the idea of shark porn is so funny (although it is). I think this episode actually brings up a good question:

What exactly is porn?

Where do we draw our boundaries?

After all, we have hardcore porn, softcore porn, racial porn, gay-porn, straight porn, even food porn. There are practically more categories for porn than there are episodes of Friends.

So what is it?

I can’t tell you how many times I’ve heard this question comes up in our online small groups.

Is [X] porn?
What about [Y]? Is that porn?
If it’s not porn, then is it okay to watch?

And on and on.

We love to put labels on things and classify everything by a type or genre.

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Unfortunately, it’s not that simple with porn.

Porn isn’t so easily defined.

There is no checklist.

So, here is what I would offer as a practical definition for porn.

Porn is anything you use (watch, read, hear, or imagine) that’s used to elicit sexual arousal outside of your spouse.

In other words, if something other than your spouse gets you sexually excited, then that thing is porn for you.

So, movies can be porn even if they aren’t rated XXX.

TV shows can be porn even if they are on regular cable channels.

Talk radio can be porn even if it’s not on the Playboy channel.

Social media can serve as porn for many.

Your imagination can even be porn.

Now, I don’t say this because I’m trying to label everything as porn or because I want you to go out and sanitize your life of all “worldly influences.” I don’t want you to cancel your cable, delete your Facebook account (although that might not hurt for some people), and throw out your satellite radios. That’s not my point.

I bring this up because there is a better question than “What is porn?” That question is: “What is porn for me?”

This is the question we need to be asking ourselves.

If you struggle with porn, sex, masturbation, or whatever – take your pick – and you need to ask yourself whether something is porn or not, then there’s a good chance it’s porn for you.

Life isn’t like that.

More often than not, we live in the grey, not the black and white, and our struggles are not all the same.

So next time you stumble upon something that stirs those lower regions ask yourself, “Is this porn for me?”

Examine your heart, your mind, and your motives, and if the answer is “yes” then shut it off. Even if it’s shark porn.

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